Can You Get Lost After Death?

What do you do when somebody dies? What do you do when you have so many around you die? It is not easy. In the last several months, three parents of friends (that I all knew), one baby, one teenager, and someone I considered a sister all passed away.

The hardest part is that even though I know what happens next, it is still hard. Even though I know it is celebration of their return on the other side, it is still hard.

What happens when you die, you ask…

They all recognized that they died. Angels, spirit guides and previously passed over loved ones were right next to each of them, as they have been for all of their lives. Then, a large, loving, golden Light appears to their right. The love just oozes out of this Light. The love just draws you right into it.

Why are insects attracted to a light?

Why are insects attracted to a light?

If you have read any of my blog posts, you know that I have remembered many past lives personally. In fact, I have remembered well over 50 past lives. A few times my spirit guides have said to me that it is really important to go into The Light. The Light is the passageway into Heaven. It is our true nature of our self, our true lives. Earth is the classroom we visit to learn life lessons.

When we forget or do not go into The Light we can get lost. We do not go into The Light for various reasons that can include memory problems before death, feeling unworthy, wanting to stay to watch over loved ones, or if you die a sudden unexpected death you may not realize you died.

I do not (yet) fully understand what it means “to get lost” after death. Maybe we get stuck in a ghostly spiritual sense on the Earth plane where we may forget about the spark of light in our hearts and avoid going into The Light.

When my best friend’s parents both got sick it was hard to watch both of them deteriorate. First her mother died. It was very hard. It is always hard to see someone suffer and die. Interestingly, I saw her spirit in my own living room not long after her death. She told me she was waiting for her husband to come too. I knew inherently that she did not go into The Light. It is hard to explain how I know, but she just seemed heavier, denser somehow than those I have seen who have passed over in through The Light. She felt different.

Nearly one month later, my friend’s dad passed away. It was incredibly hard on my friend. (Listening and being there for her was still not enough to take away her pain.)

A few hours after his death, I sat in my living room in complete disbelief. All of this had transpired so fast. Her parents were both fine just a few months ago.

At that moment, a saw a vision of her dad showing me that he found her mother. He stood to the right of her. He made me aware that he found her so that she would not get lost. I got the impression, that this was part of the reason he felt he needed to go. He showed me how he was firmly grasping her hand to make sure she was safe. The Light, so golden and loving, appeared behind them. As The Light became brighter, they appeared more silhouetted. They turned and looked back to the Earth class and smiled. They turned and looked at each other and smiled more. Then, they looked into The Light and walked into it.

It was the sweetest, most loving thing between two people that I have ever witnessed.

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Combating Emotional Vampires – Who Sucks Your Energy?

I recently came across this article and felt that I should post it since it was a good follow-up to my recent post: How to Break Bad Relationship Patterns from this Life and Previous Lives

The Heart - in the beginning

Daily OM
Combating Emotional Vampires
by Dr. Judith Orloff

The following is an excerpt from the “Combating Emotional Vampires” on-line course.

Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It’s important to be surrounded by supportive, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It’s equally important to pinpoint the emotional vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy.

To protect your sensitivity, it’s imperative to name and combat these emotional vampires. They’re everywhere: coworkers, neighbors, family, and friends. In Energy Psychiatry I’ve treated a revolving door of patients who’ve been hard-hit by drainers–truly a mental health epidemic that conventional medicine doesn’t see. I’m horrified by how many of these “emotionally walking wounded” (ordinarily perceptive, intelligent individuals) have become resigned to chronic anxiety or depression. Why the blind spot? Most of us haven’t been educated about draining people or how to emancipate ourselves from their clutches, requisite social skills for everyone desiring freedom. Emotional draining is a touchy subject. We don’t know how to tactfully address our needs without alienating others. The result: We get tongue-tied, or destructively passive. We ignore the SOS from our gut that screams, “Beware!” Or, quaking in our boots, we’re so afraid of the faux pas of appearing “impolite” that w! e become martyrs in lieu of being respectfully assertive. We don’t speak out because we don’t want to be seen as “difficult” or uncaring.

Vampires do more than drain our physical energy. The super-malignant ones can make you believe you’re an unworthy, unlovable wretch who doesn’t deserve better. The subtler species inflict damage that’s more of a slow burn. Smaller digs here and there can make you feel bad about yourself such as, “Dear, I see you’ve put on a few pounds” or “It’s not lady-like to interrupt.” In a flash, they’ve zapped you by prodding areas of shaky self-worth.

The Heart

This is my credo for vampires: Their antics are unacceptable; you must develop a successful plan for coping with them. I deeply believe in the merciful message of The Lord’s Prayer to “forgive people their trespasses,” but I’m also a proponent of preventing the unconscious or mean-spirited from trespassing against us. Taking a stand against draining people is a form of self-care and canny communication that you must practice to give your freedom legs.

What turns someone into an emotional vampire? First, a psychological reason: children often reflexively mimic their parents’ most unflattering traits. A self-absorbed father can turn you into a self-absorbed son. Early modeling has impact. Studies of Holocaust survivors reveal that many became abusive parents themselves. The second explanation involves subtle energy. I’ve observed that childhood trauma–mistreatment, loss, parental alcoholism, illness–can weaken a person’s energy field. This energy leakage may condition those with such early wounds to draw on the vitality of others to compensate; it’s not something most are aware of. Nevertheless, the effects can be extreme. Visualize an octopus-like tendril extending from their energy field and glomming onto yours. Your intuition may register this as sadness, anger, fatigue, or a cloying, squirrelly feeling. The degree of mood change or physical reaction may vary. A vampire’s effects can stun like a sonic blast or make you! slowly wilt. But it’s the rare drainer that sets out to purposely enervate you. The majority act unconsciously, oblivious to being an emotional drain.

Let me tell you the secret of how a vampire operates so you can outsmart one. A vampire goes in for the kill by stirring up your emotions. Pushing your buttons throws you off center, which renders you easier to drain. Of all the emotional types, empaths are often the most devastated. However, certain emotional states increase everyone’s vulnerability. I myself am most susceptible to emotional vampires when I feel desperate, tired, or disempowered. Here are some others:

•Low self-esteem

•Depression

•A victim mentality

•Fear of asserting yourself

•Addiction to people-pleasing

When encountering emotional vampires, see what you can learn too. It’s your choice. You can simply feel tortured, resentful, and impotent. Or, as I try to do, ask yourself, “How can this interchange help me grow?” Every nanosecond of life, good, bad, or indifferent, is a chance to become emotionally freer, enlarge the heart. If we’re to have any hope of breaking war-mongering patterns, we must each play a part. As freedom fighters, strive to view vampires as opportunities to enlist your highest self and not be a sucker for negativity. Then you’ll leave smelling like a rose, even with Major-League Draculas.

Don't give your heart away

In Time … In the NOW

Time.

It’s elusive.

Wished for.

Asked for.

Yet, not really there.

It is so relative.

You want more time when you are having fun.

(Of course.)

You dread the time when you wait or have to endure something that is boring

(Who doesn’t.)

Time nearly stands still as each nanosecond is painstakingly drawn out when something scary or life threatening happens

This relative thing called time moves along in its synchronistic ways

Moment to moment

Connect each second to second

And then the minute to the next minute

Hours soon go by

Days

Weeks

Years

And soon, a millennium passes us by

As time marches on

And on

And on

A moment in Time

So take some time to try living in the now.

NOW – is literally focusing completely with all of your senses in what you are doing right now. The way that chair feels as you sit here. The temperature of the air you breathe in and out. Your heart beating. The smell of baking cookies in the air. The sound of music playing in the distance. The words that you read, the font being used, your eyes focusing on the text, all being processed quickly by your brain. All in perfect harmony.

All in this time right now.

Love to you all.

xoxox

Karen

A Declaration of Self Esteem

I was given this …. um … I won’t say, since then you will know my age. I feel 25, so we will go with that. I was given this a very long time ago, way before I truly found myself (my whole self). I was going through a very difficult time in my life at that point.The Garden of Adonis by John Dickson Batten 1887. Angels always watch over us.

I came across this declaration again while organizing paperwork recently, so I thought I would share it with you. I was given many other helpful things that I will soon share.

I am not sure who to acknowledge as the author, since none was given, so I send my thanks out to the one who wrote it.

I send my love out to the woman who gave it to me while I stayed there. I wish I could remember her name.

I can hear the words that Morgana says in the movie Little Mermaid II. She exclaims, “Say it loud. Say it Proud,” to little Melody as Melody turns into a mermaid and becomes her true self.

With heartfelt love to all who read this …. for all the dear, sweet Humans (as my friend, Sheri would say) who share this Earth with me, this is for you to declare.

 

My Declaration of Self Esteem I am ME.

In all the world, there is no one else exactly like ME.

There are persons who have some parts like ME, but no on adds up exactly like ME.

Therefore, everything that comes out  of ME is authentically mine because I alone choose it.

I own everything about ME – my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all its thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they may be – anger, joy, frustrations, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth, and all the words that come out of it, polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud or soft; and all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of ME, I can become intimately acquainted with ME.

By so doing I can love ME and be friendly with ME in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of ME to work in my best interests.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle ME, and other aspects that I do not know.

But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about ME.

However, I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is ME. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time. When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting. I can discard that which is unfitting and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do.

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order of the world of people and things outside of ME.

I own ME, and therefore I can engineer ME.

I am me and I am okay.

How Can I Help my Child Understand Metaphysics?

Guest blog post by Kim Aluise, Intuitive

Growing up Positively

Growing up Positively

Many people, once they have begun to understand the metaphysical ideal, ask this question. I think it first helps to understand the meaning of metaphysics, and being metaphysical. This can be difficult, because it is often not defined well. If you do a search right now, you will find more than one definition. To the best of my ability, I would define it as a philosophy, where one would seek to know and understand the hows and the whys of the human existence. I think at the core, it is of importance for anyone, whether metaphysically minded, or not, to understand “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

I use this quote often and certainly with all of my clients.

Small children are born, like all of us, with this knowledge. If you have young children under the age of 7, the concept of where we came from is easy for them to grasp. They, unlike adults, remember and welcome talk of all things metaphysical. Never push a child with questions and answers, just speak very matter of fact. When they talk of “imaginary” friends, inquire about them, acknowledge how wonderful it is that a friend has come to enjoy in their day with them. Encourage them to be the human that they intended to be when they came here. It is often far too easy to “keep up with the Joneses and worry that your child is not “like the other kids”. As a parent, you are to offer guidance, but never push against the inner wisdom and knowledge of the age-old spirit that resides in that tiny body. Those little humans are spirits as old as the beginning of time, and they will happily co-exist with you in your joy.

As for older children, the pre-teens, and teens that have not been raised in the metaphysical ways of thinking, you will likely need a bit of a different approach. Some humans are just naturally more in tune with the spirit world in which we came from, and will go back to one day. Others, for their own spiritual reasons, are more disconnected from it. It’s important to lead by example. Speak kindly, and be open to non-judgmental conversations. While all the years of our human experience can have challenges, the teen years can be the most difficult in my opinion. They are a time when we feel we have no control, and we must answer to others for everything. Show your teen, or pre-teen that you acknowledge the unique, loving, wonderful spirit that they are.

No matter the age of your child, express to them what we in the metaphysical world know to be true. The spirit world is not counting your success by the number of years you live, the grades you get in school, or the objects you own, but by the joy that you have in this lifetime. That is it, just the joy. If you have joy, then all good things will come to you.

 

 

How to Attract the Things you Want

What do you want in your life? 

“Use whatever excuse you can to vibrate in harmony with those things you’ve been saying you want.

And when you do, those things that are a vibrational equivalent flow into your experience in abundance.

Not because you deserve it, not because you’ve earned it, but because it’s the natural consequence of the Law of Attraction.

That which is like unto itself is drawn.”

an awesome quote by Esther and Abraham Hicks

Like Attracts LikeOnce you understand that we are all really just vibrating energy and that like attracts like, life gets easier.

Look at an atom, it is a measurement of its vibration thus we are all made of atoms vibrating. Our aura is another energy field that is located in, through and around us. Everything has a vibration.

What you are emanating in a vibration comes to you. Our thoughts are vibrations.

Did you ever notice something, like a new word or a particular kind of car and then hear and see that word or notice that kind of car everywhere over the next few days afterwards? That happened through the law of attraction. You were thinking about it and more came to you that is similar.

In this quote above, she is saying to really act as though it has already happened, already received. This act of using your imagination brings your vibration to match what it is you want.

Another way to talk about vibration and how to raise it to the highest level which is love energy is by using some common phrases in everyday life. “That person is high on life” or “That person is walking on cloud nine” Both of these images bring to mind a cartoon character that is floating around with a blissful smile on their face. These people are both happy because of a love in their lives. Love is a high vibrating energy. To attract love, you have to be loving in all that you do.

What Makes You Happy?

What makes you, yes you, happy?

Really happy?

You don’t know?

Make a written or mental list over the next few weeks on what you are doing when you smile.

You will start to see a pattern.

Maybe it is something you have not done in a long time and you think of it (for example, painting or drawing) and just the thought makes you smile.

Seeing a sunrise or a sunset always makes me smile.

Write it down.

Pretty soon you have a long list of things that make you happy. Start to do more of them. Pretty soon, you are happy all day.

Isn’t that what you want in life anyway … to be happy?

The absolutely cool part about knowing what makes you happy is that once you find your happiness, you fine your passion. Once you find your passion, abundance comes naturally.

What made you smile today?

Changing Your Perspective on Life

My good friend, Sindy, proposed we write 11 days of healing in honor of her mother, whose birthday happens to be on September 11th.Towering Grain

Today I will start with some numeral messages from Doreen Virtue’s book, Angel Numbers 101 (Hay House, 2008)

Taken from her book, here are a few meanings for the numbers associated with the day.

9 = “Get to work, Lightworker—now! The number 9 means that you’ve completed all of the prerequisites to achieve your life purpose. Stop procrastinating, as it’s time to start taking action steps. Even baby steps are useful.”

11 = “Stay Positive! Your thoughts are materializing rapidly, so you want to ensure positive outcomes by focusing on the good within yourself, others and this situation.”

911 = “It’s very important that you keep a positive mind-set concerning your spiritually based career ideas. Positive thoughts are your most important asset right now.”

We choose how we feel about this day. We have the free will to think any way we please. This day will always be a day of remembrance: remembrance for Sindy’s mom and remembrance for what happened in New York City – which will always be an awesome city!

Healing and consciously choosing how we feel always reminds me of Joe Vitale. He includes a great way of re-programming how we think of … well anything.

His focus is on blocks, but you can fill anything in these blanks. Then read this clearing mantra. It is one more way for us to heal.

From Joe Vitale’s tapes, the Missing Secret:

“Spirit, Superconscience, please locate the origin of my feeling, thoughts of __________________________.

Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my being to this origin.

Analyze and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.

Come through all generations of time and eternity.

Healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin.

Please do it according to God’s will until I am at the present, filled with light and truth, God’s peace and love, forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions, forgiveness of every person, place, circumstances and event which contributed to these feelings, thoughts.

With total forgiveness and unconditional love: I allow every physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problem and inappropriate behavior based on the negative origin recorded in my dna to transform.

I choose _____ (What you want to be) ________________________.

I feel ________ (what you want to feel) ________________________.

I am ________ (what you want to be) _________________________.

It is done. It is healed. It is accomplished now.”

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What will you change your perspective on today?

So, Tell Me, Is Life Like Schrodinger’s Cat in a Sealed Box?

To have complete and utter faith that when you open the box (symbolic of “waking up to a new day of your life”) that your ultimate dream life, your ultimate desire, is a reality.

That is manifestation. That is, in my view, applying quantum physics to life.

To have the confidence and the conviction that your dream is so real, it becomes true.

What if it happened the very next day?

Imagine the implications.

If we create our own world by our thoughts … what would you choose? Who would you be? Where would you live? What do you really want to do with your life? What world do you want to live in tomorrow?

So, how does this compare to Schrödinger’s cat? Glad you asked.

The basic precept for Quantum physics is this: what you expect to observe, happens.

It is in line with the teachings of The Secret and The Law of Attraction—what you think about comes about.

We have a choice each day to make decisions to choose to do this or choose to do that. If we choose to think positively about what we want to come true, it does.

What if we chose something really big?

Why not?

The Law of Attraction tells us that we should act as though or think as though what we really want is already here. Really already here … like right now.

The famous example commonly used to explain Quantum theory is Schrödinger’s cat. Erwin Schrödinger devised a thought experiment about a cat. It is basically a coin toss on the cat’s survival. The cat is placed in a sealed box. Inside the box is radioactive material, a bottle of poison and a Geiger counter to detect radioactivity. If one single atom decays, the poison is released which kills the cat. There is a 50-50 chance for the cat to die from the poison or to stay alive. The cat’s life is dependent upon the cat being observed by a conscious being. It becomes their decision. The particles involved are in a state of indecision until they are observed (per what is known, amongst Quantum physics enthusiasts, as the Copenhagen Interpretation).

(Please note: no harm was done to a cat—this is a theoretical example.)

My own cat, Catty.

Does this mean that when we wake up (keeping our eyes shut), if we believe with all our heart that our dream came true … will it be there when we open our eyes? It is no different than opening that box to check on the cat, so it should be.

I would think there would have to be absolutely no doubt in our minds for it to work—we need complete faith that we can manifest. Ultimately, controlling the very particles of the thing we have thus far only dreamed of having.

I love when synchronistic things happen for me. In the week I worked on this blog post, I received an email from The Secret Daily Teachings. Perfect timing, I thought.

“Most people can manifest the small things quickly. This is because they do not have any resistance around the small things, and because they don’t think thoughts that contradict them. When it comes to the bigger things, however, people often emit thoughts of doubt or worry that contradict those bigger things. This is the only difference in terms of the time it takes for something to manifest.” ~ Rhonda Byrne

How will you wake up tomorrow?

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Interested? Here is part one of a Lecture Series on Quantum Physics by Prof. V. Balakrishnan, Department of Physics. It is an introduction to Quantum Physics including Heisenberg”s uncertainty principle.

Another good article with more references to Schrödinger’s cat.

I Love Random Acts of Kindness

Today I woke up to my radio … and what I heard, I could not believe my ears.

The radio DJ was asking people to call in to thank someone who have offered them a random act of kindness. It was my kind of way to wake up. Many, many people called into the show.

VERY COOL!

Many were overcome with so much gratitude. Many had no idea who these people were who helped them. One gentleman knew that if his helper had not shown up, he would have surely died. Imagine. Was it an angel who helped? Or are humans acting as angels when they offer a random act of kindness?

I thought I died and went to a happy, loving metaphysical Heaven on Earth. It was so refreshing to hear this talk rather than the usual news, sports, etc. banter in the morning.

One Random Act of Kindness

I really enjoy random acts of kindness. It is the one true way you can offer unconditional love towards another human being. If the opportunity presents itself, I try to do a random act of kindness. Oftentimes, it is something so small and inconsequential, but always brightens someone else’s day.

For example, my favorite random act of kindness is to help someone take their cart back to the store or cart return area in a store parking lot. Easy. Costs nothing. I am already on my way towards the entrance of the store anyway. I always get a smile in return. That’s all you need in return—appreciation.

I still cannot believe that my favorite radio station started my day with showing me that others offer their love unconditionally. It is truly awesome.

One random act of kindness can change a person. It changed all the listeners who called into the radio today. Each person remembered that day with such gratitude.

From that one person, it then spreads out, in a sort of ripple effect, to others… and others… and still more others.

It is nice to feel loved.

Aversion to Negativity in an Awakening

I noticed something. Ever since I started my journey into metaphysics, I have had an aversion to negativity.

Is it because I made a conscious effort to focus only on the positive, I have only wanted to bring positive into my life?

Or… Is it something more?

Ever since I have literally and figuratively seen the Light, I have not wanted to watch fear-based media. I stopped watching the news for one. I do not watch the zombie shows or any other fear-based movies.

I feel better … happier.

The rocks do not stop the endless flow of water.

Yes, I sort of know what goes on in the world (I read the headlines), but I know that the world is not crumbling quite as much as the news would lead us to think. I rarely see bad things happen.

If I thought the world was like the news all day every day, I would be a recluse and never leave the house.

I actually often think that the sole purpose of the news broadcast is to help others understand what to do in times of dire straits. I know that I have lived each lifetime to learn lessons I chose to learn before incarnating here. Maybe how the fireman saved the little girl from a burning building or how so many people band together to help someone who is lost can help someone learn how to help unconditionally.

The Law of Attraction states that what you put into your life comes into your life. The Secret states that what we focus our attention on is what we have in our lives. What do you want in your life?

Fear or Love?

So many positive things happen in the world each day. Choose to focus on that.

Try it for a week. See if you notice a difference.

Numinous

Word of the day: numinous 

One of our divine gifts ~ Rainbow falls in Hawaii

Christmas is Coming This Week—The Present? A Deeper Understanding of the Universe.

You know that excited feeling that something wonderful is going to happen … like Santa is coming with lots of presents and you cannot sleep excitement?

That is how I feel about theI love when the snow sticks to everything upcoming movie Cloud Atlas.

Christmas comes on October 26th this year for me. That movie resonates so deeply with all the writing I have been doing over the past two years.

The belief that we have been here before in other lifetimes and that we will experience future lifetimes is woven so deep within us.

I believe an understanding of this topic is spreading throughout the collective unconscious (or universal consciousness) very quickly.

I am passionate about writing this book, the movie Cloud Atlas (and many other movies), meeting lots (I mean LOTS) of new people who are interested in the topic of past lives and the noticeable increase in references to this subject in cartoons, etc. … Wow.

 

I am ready to open presents now.

The Past meets Present and the Future in CLOUD ATLAS

I am definitely going to see this movie. Plus, I have a good feeling it will be my new FAVORITE!

This movie has the same premise as my book, Life is Just another Class—One Soul’s Journey through Past Life RegressionFor more information visit: www.karenkubicko.com!!

Past lifetimes do affect your present life. I have lived it … and healed by remembering.

Cloud Atlas premiers October 26, 2012.

I knew I loved Tom Hanks for a reason.

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