How to Break Bad Relationship Patterns from this Life and Previous Lives

Have you ever experienced a relationship that was not working in a positive way or even toxic? Are you looking for the path to healing?Path to Healing

How do you move on from this relationship in a spiritual sense …. ie. How do you break the unseen ties that bind you? Maybe you have not moved on yet, but you are looking for help. Maybe this person was not in a relationship with you, but possibly it was a hurtful, bad event (like molestation or rape) and you want to continue to heal from that.

We are all looking for love and acceptance from someone, but when harsh relationships, memories and emotional events keep resurfacing later in our lives, we are made aware of our need to heal from them.

We need to heal so that we can be whole …. when we are whole, we can bring our whole self into a new, healthy, loving relationship.

Additionally, when a relationship is ending or has ended, it is like a death. We go through the same stages as if someone close to us has died: Denial, Anger, Depression and finally Acceptance.

I firmly believe that forgiveness is always healing, however, I have found several additional ways to also help in the healing process. Please note that forgiveness is not saying that you are okay with what happened, but that you can release the attachment to it and not allow those memories or that person to weigh you down.

Below you will find many different ways to help you heal through whatever connection you have had in a relationship that you would like to release. By doing so, you will feel lighter, freer, more healthy emotionally and spiritually. It is shedding the dark, cloudy energy that formed. It is the releasing of the heavy, pent-up emotions that have been weighing us down – sometime for our entire lifetime or beyond. Use the tool or tools that resonates with you.

Know that it may take years for healing as we are always healing on many levels. By simply acknowledging that you would like to release the attachment to this relationship is the first step to healing. These tools may be your first step. There are many, many ways to heal. These are just a few. It feels like we are chipping away at a large boulder now, but you can do it with a lot of self-work and self-love.

My first suggestion is to ask your angels and spirit guides to send you healing unconditional love. Close your eyes right now and allow it to be so.One Little White Feather from an Angel

 

START WITH THE RELEASING …

 

Release the Patterns of a Past Life

Angelic Prayer from Mhairi at Angel Rainbow

Help provided by Archangel Raziel

Visualize yourself surrounded in rainbow colors.

I call upon Archangel Raziel to help my remember lessons and experiences from my past lives, that have an impact upon my life at this time. Help me to understand and heal from issues that I faced during any of my past lives. Guide me to recognize and release all that no longer serves me in this life, which is connected to a previous existence. I calmly and with love release and heal from all that you show me. Archangel Raziel, thank for this wonderful guidance and allowing me to realize how my past lives have influenced this incarnation.

 

Remember a Past Life

Go straight to the source of why you were attracted to this person in the first place or why you encountered them. By remembering a past life, you can be made aware of being with them before and why. Maybe the experience was similar. Maybe the past life experience explains the relationship. It can be extraordinarily healing on a lot of levels. I have seen a contract I signed to agree to come into this life with a person – all for the learning. Harsh, but I did grow from the experience. We choose all that we have experienced by our own free will.

 

Clear Your Blocks to Your Happiness and Abundance

Here is way to clear any blocks you may have by Joe Vitale. It is from his audio tapes, the Missing Secret:

“Spirit, Superconscience, please locate the origin of my feeling, thoughts of __________________________.
Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my being to this origin.
Analyze and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.
Come through all generations of time and eternity.
Healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin.
Please do it according to God’s will until I am at the present, filled with light and truth, God’s peace and love, forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions, forgiveness of every person, place, circumstances and event which contributed to these feelings, thoughts.
With total forgiveness and unconditional love: I allow every physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problem and inappropriate behavior based on the negative origin recorded in my dna to transform.
I choose _____ (What you want to be) ________________________.
I feel ________ (what you want to feel) ________________________.Heart in Hand-LOVE Thyself

 

Contract/vow Releasement

This is an excerpt from Owen Waters’ book:

“I now renounce and release all vows that I have taken which have outlived their purposes and which now limit my potential for growth. I reclaim my personal freedom and declare such vows renounced and released as of now. I replace old vows with the knowing that I am loved and that I am Love.”

 

Cut the Unseen Cords

There are unseen cords that attach when you meet someone. It is as though they physically attach to you. Some are good attachments and you feel positive and lifted up by the relationship – sometimes even a back and forth energetic exchange. Those are the healthy ones!

But… then there are those who drain us, literally, of our energy and we feel exhausted after talking to or being with them.

A shaman taught me how to detach these cords. Close your eyes and visualize the cords extending from your stomach area (which is via the sacral chakra). Then visualize yourself cutting the cords. In your mind, visualize yourself using a large pair of scissors, a flaming knife, sword or even a chain saw. Whatever makes you happy. Cut them like you mean it. Then, visualize yourself taking back all parts of your energy from their (whoever they may be) portion of the cord. Put your energy back on and in you. Then, send their cord portion back to them. I visualize them burning back to the others … to really cut them off. Offer forgiveness to any person that comes to your mind while you do this. You are not being mean, it is necessary. Then visualize your opening (from where the cords came) being sealed back up with unconditional love.

I have seen this done with people using real tools like a knife (uh, made me very nervous) and learned you can use any physical object like a stone or anything meaningful to you. While doing this physical, in the air, cutting, you can scream out to this person that: ‘you are finished, you are done, you are mad, you are cutting them from you’. It is very healing.

You do not have to sever every cord with every person, some are built on love – like your child or parent. Do this exercise as often as you feel necessary. I did it several times. The shaman said, some can be sticky and it may take a few times to release them completely. Every once in a while, do it again. I did it every day, then once a week, etc. at first. You’ll know what to do intuitively. I rarely feel the need for cord cutting now.

I started to notice that when I felt drained after talking to someone … I had to disconnect. After a while, it becomes obvious who drains you.Love bracelet as a daily reminder we are LOVED

 

Writing

You can write a letter to this person and tell them that you are done, disconnected and finished with the emotional attachment they formed on you. You can then burn it for finality.

 

NOW FOR THE HEALING …

 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping

I offer this affirmation for those who have been traumatized:

Even though terrible things may have happened to me, and my impulse may be to suppress undesirable thoughts, emotions, or bodily sensations, I am loveable and acceptable just as I am. Even though I may feel devalued by traumatic occurrences, I know at my core that I am whole and good, and I now choose to lovingly align myself with that truth.

 

Protect Yourself

Each day or as often as you feel the need, visualize a shield around you. I visualize a golden light. Say, “The golden light surrounds and protects me. No harm can come through my light, only goodness.”

 

Write the Story You Want to Hear

Now, focus on you. Write down how you want your life to be. Write things that only state the positive – use NO negative words/thoughts. For example: Say- ‘Only loving people are in my life’. Don’t say- ‘No mean men in my life’. Say- ‘I know what I want in my life’. Don’t say- ‘I am a lost soul’.

The reason I tell you this is because: the story you tell about you, becomes you. Tell the story you want to have in your life (even if it sounds crazy or outrageous now). Say things like- I have lots of friends who love and respect me. There are nice people everywhere. People do nice things for me every day and I accept them with gratitude. The men or women I meet love and respect me. I am confident in everything I do. I have courage. I am open to receive loving relationships.love wave

 

Be Inspired

Read or listen to the teachings of The Secret (Rhonda Byrnes) (and any of the authors featured) as well as Esther & Jerry Hicks writings on the teachings of Abraham-Hicks and the Law of Attraction. Very cool info.

 

Visualize the New You

Make a vision board – it is a poster collage filled with things you want to see in your life. If you are a visual person, this is a great reminder of what you want out of life. It is fun to do. I add stuff all the time. You can make a paper one with pictures clipped from magazines. The website Pinterest.com is a great place to do this online. Or you can copy pictures and paste them on a document you keep on your computer. The more you look at the vision board, the better. I have a couple. It is a fun reminder of what you want in life. And – when you look at it months later and see that some of the things have come to fruition… well…. life can be fabulous.

 

Love to you,
xoxox
Karen

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To Love Yourself…

Love.Heart in Hand-LOVE Thyself

Love thyself.

Love myself first.

I love me.

Look in the mirror. Can you say, “I love you” to yourself?

Seriously. Look in the mirror and try it. Don’t be shy. Say it like you mean it.

It took me a long time too. If you practice it enough, it becomes easier. You get more confident. You like yourself more.

You love yourself.

As women, we are taught to give, give, give and to constantly take care of others. It was hard for me to stop living that way. (Like it was a bad habit, it was hard to break.) When you give, you should be able to receive. I was always being told to be open to receive, especially by my open-minded and psychic friends. (Love you all.)

When we receive, we allow others to feel the joy of giving.

Last summer, I started using the mantra: I am open to receive.

When we receive, we allow others to feel the joy of giving.

Now that the summer solstice is upon us, I know it has been a year that I have consciously practiced receiving… and by doing so loving me.

It is really about loving yourself first. I know, it sounds selfish… but it truly is not. When you love yourself, then it will become easy for others to love you too.

You see, by being open to receive is just another way of being open to receiving love.

Yes, love for you … for your own self. Everyone wants that.

Children Can Easily See Angels … more Proof

Today I was going through my daughter’s old drawings and came across one that caught my attention. A lot. I had to share.

My daughters loving spirit

She had drawn an angel and told me that, this was her “Loving spirit (one of 12 or 13) that came to her to make her feel better and filled her heart with LOVE.”

I am so glad I wrote it down as she told me.

Kids say the most interesting things. My daughter certainly did then and still amazes me today. (I love you darling.)

At this point in my life I was not in touch with how angels and spirit guides are always here for us. I am sure I wrote it thinking, “Aw, that’s sweet.” And then did not think about it again. As I read it now, I am sure she was seeing an angel. She drew this when she was only four years old.

You can see for yourself that her drawing has angel wings and a halo of light around a heart above the crown chakra. It looks like they may be singing too.

I showed it to my daughter again. She said, “Look, see they even have a third eye too.”

WOW. She was four and could not only see this, but knew that they filled her heart with love. The amazing part is that this angel was only one of the 12 or 13 that came to her… for her.

Kids are soooo connected with Heaven, that angels, spirit guides and passed over loved ones are easily seen and can be talked to by children.

I obviously dismissed this experience as just an interesting drawing with an interesting description at that time in my life. I had been living for many years without much faith in anything and I know at this point in my life I was just beginning to understand that there is so much more. I now know that we are so incredibly loved by our angels, spirit guides and passed over loved ones it is incomprehensible.

PLEASE remember that all babies and children are so close to having just been in Heaven that seeing angels and being able to talk to them is so easy for them. Please, please, please support them and acknowledge this true God-given ability they all (we all) have so that it stays with them throughout their life. How wonderful to feel supported everyday and to know it.

I know I will be reviewing both my children’s drawings to see what other treasures I can find.

In the meantime, my daughter remembers this experience and offered to redraw this angel. I will post it when she does.

Love to you all,

xoxox

Karen

 

 

 

 

What the Healing Room in Heaven is Like…

The healing angelThere IS a healing room in Heaven.

I have been there and have seen it many times after remembering a death scene in many of my past lives during a past life regression (or PLR). It is a slightly different experience every time – since I died in different ways each lifetime. I have  walked into the light in about 20 of the 50 lifetimes I have remembered.

First, please understand that there is no time after we die as well as while we are in Heaven. It is a very hard concept for us to wrap our heads around. When I have visited the healing room in Heaven it seemed short sometimes and long other times. Since there is no time, I have no idea how long. It could be years in our terms.

Once there, Angels much taller than me poured LOVE energy down through me and especially to where I needed healing – dependent upon how I died and my life experiences.

Sometimes I would lie in a bed with solid colored blankets that would match the color of a chakra that needed healing from that lifetime. I know I stayed there a long time, but during the past life regression I could move on to the next important event, so I have no reference of time.

I found this picture of an angel standing over a women … this is what it was like. Except it was more like a glistening room instead of clouds.

Sometimes I would have one healing angel. Sometimes I had many more. I remembered seven healing angels all around me after one difficult lifetime. It feels soooo incredible. It is soo loving …. there are no words to describe how deeply penetrating the love is.

 

We are loved more than we know.

Our Intent Is the Key to Living

Relaxing at the beachI recently read a question, does it matter if you have socks and shoes on to ground yourself? I think this is a great question. It goes along with the rules to sit up straight in lotus position to meditate. Is it really necessary?

I believe that the metaphysical things we can do to help us, whether it is mediation, grounding, chakra clearing, etc. does not really need any “extra” things/protocol/rules.

Sometimes I say, “Geesh, it doesn’t have to be so hard.”

I really feel our INTENT is the most important factor. If you believe that you can ground yourself by standing in your living room (while it is snowing outside, for example… too cold or what if you lived in a large city… no grass, just concrete), then why not?

I think of of the tenet: <<Thoughts become things.>>

Your intent is the key. The mind is soooo strong.

If you close your eyes and visualize the beach all around you as you ground yourself or meditate. It can really feel as though you are at the beach. So then, what is the difference?

Furthermore, everything in our entire universe, including us, is made from energy. We are all one. So, when we stand/sit/whatever in our socks and shoes, we are ultimately connecting with the universe. If the intent is there and the belief is there, so it will … be.

What is your intent today?

 

Clear Your Chakras with Positive Loving Statements

As you focus on each chakra, say these statements aloud, clearly … with meaningful intent.

Crown Chakra –
I am connected to a greater consciousness.

3rd Eye Chakra –
I am in touch with my inner light. I trust what comes to me.

Throat Chakra –
I speak my personal truth from light and love—and with love, I communicate clearly. I support my voice. The force between the heart and mind is balanced. I am able to express my feelings.

Heart Chakra –
I breathe in life through love. I give and receive with love and gratitude. I support my ability to breathe in life and support a balanced, aligned heart. I am connected above and below.

Solar Plexus Chakra –
I have a positive self-image. I am self-empowered. I have personal power. My metabolism works very well for my body. I am one with myself.

Sacral Chakra –
My creative life force energy pulses through me to support balance and stabilized health. I connect to others through feeling, desire, sensation and movement. I enjoy my creative life energy.

Root Chakra –
I am grounded. I am safe. I am supported. I have the right to be alive.

One step in clearing your chakras

Related Reading: Chakra Universe by Bluebutterfliesandme

Affirmations to Heal your Chakras

What a fabulous way to feel better, emotionally, physically and energetically. I love it! Thank you Robin!