How to Break Bad Relationship Patterns from this Life and Previous Lives

Have you ever experienced a relationship that was not working in a positive way or even toxic? Are you looking for the path to healing?Path to Healing

How do you move on from this relationship in a spiritual sense …. ie. How do you break the unseen ties that bind you? Maybe you have not moved on yet, but you are looking for help. Maybe this person was not in a relationship with you, but possibly it was a hurtful, bad event (like molestation or rape) and you want to continue to heal from that.

We are all looking for love and acceptance from someone, but when harsh relationships, memories and emotional events keep resurfacing later in our lives, we are made aware of our need to heal from them.

We need to heal so that we can be whole …. when we are whole, we can bring our whole self into a new, healthy, loving relationship.

Additionally, when a relationship is ending or has ended, it is like a death. We go through the same stages as if someone close to us has died: Denial, Anger, Depression and finally Acceptance.

I firmly believe that forgiveness is always healing, however, I have found several additional ways to also help in the healing process. Please note that forgiveness is not saying that you are okay with what happened, but that you can release the attachment to it and not allow those memories or that person to weigh you down.

Below you will find many different ways to help you heal through whatever connection you have had in a relationship that you would like to release. By doing so, you will feel lighter, freer, more healthy emotionally and spiritually. It is shedding the dark, cloudy energy that formed. It is the releasing of the heavy, pent-up emotions that have been weighing us down – sometime for our entire lifetime or beyond. Use the tool or tools that resonates with you.

Know that it may take years for healing as we are always healing on many levels. By simply acknowledging that you would like to release the attachment to this relationship is the first step to healing. These tools may be your first step. There are many, many ways to heal. These are just a few. It feels like we are chipping away at a large boulder now, but you can do it with a lot of self-work and self-love.

My first suggestion is to ask your angels and spirit guides to send you healing unconditional love. Close your eyes right now and allow it to be so.One Little White Feather from an Angel

 

START WITH THE RELEASING …

 

Release the Patterns of a Past Life

Angelic Prayer from Mhairi at Angel Rainbow

Help provided by Archangel Raziel

Visualize yourself surrounded in rainbow colors.

I call upon Archangel Raziel to help my remember lessons and experiences from my past lives, that have an impact upon my life at this time. Help me to understand and heal from issues that I faced during any of my past lives. Guide me to recognize and release all that no longer serves me in this life, which is connected to a previous existence. I calmly and with love release and heal from all that you show me. Archangel Raziel, thank for this wonderful guidance and allowing me to realize how my past lives have influenced this incarnation.

 

Remember a Past Life

Go straight to the source of why you were attracted to this person in the first place or why you encountered them. By remembering a past life, you can be made aware of being with them before and why. Maybe the experience was similar. Maybe the past life experience explains the relationship. It can be extraordinarily healing on a lot of levels. I have seen a contract I signed to agree to come into this life with a person – all for the learning. Harsh, but I did grow from the experience. We choose all that we have experienced by our own free will.

 

Clear Your Blocks to Your Happiness and Abundance

Here is way to clear any blocks you may have by Joe Vitale. It is from his audio tapes, the Missing Secret:

“Spirit, Superconscience, please locate the origin of my feeling, thoughts of __________________________.
Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my being to this origin.
Analyze and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.
Come through all generations of time and eternity.
Healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin.
Please do it according to God’s will until I am at the present, filled with light and truth, God’s peace and love, forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions, forgiveness of every person, place, circumstances and event which contributed to these feelings, thoughts.
With total forgiveness and unconditional love: I allow every physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problem and inappropriate behavior based on the negative origin recorded in my dna to transform.
I choose _____ (What you want to be) ________________________.
I feel ________ (what you want to feel) ________________________.Heart in Hand-LOVE Thyself

 

Contract/vow Releasement

This is an excerpt from Owen Waters’ book:

“I now renounce and release all vows that I have taken which have outlived their purposes and which now limit my potential for growth. I reclaim my personal freedom and declare such vows renounced and released as of now. I replace old vows with the knowing that I am loved and that I am Love.”

 

Cut the Unseen Cords

There are unseen cords that attach when you meet someone. It is as though they physically attach to you. Some are good attachments and you feel positive and lifted up by the relationship – sometimes even a back and forth energetic exchange. Those are the healthy ones!

But… then there are those who drain us, literally, of our energy and we feel exhausted after talking to or being with them.

A shaman taught me how to detach these cords. Close your eyes and visualize the cords extending from your stomach area (which is via the sacral chakra). Then visualize yourself cutting the cords. In your mind, visualize yourself using a large pair of scissors, a flaming knife, sword or even a chain saw. Whatever makes you happy. Cut them like you mean it. Then, visualize yourself taking back all parts of your energy from their (whoever they may be) portion of the cord. Put your energy back on and in you. Then, send their cord portion back to them. I visualize them burning back to the others … to really cut them off. Offer forgiveness to any person that comes to your mind while you do this. You are not being mean, it is necessary. Then visualize your opening (from where the cords came) being sealed back up with unconditional love.

I have seen this done with people using real tools like a knife (uh, made me very nervous) and learned you can use any physical object like a stone or anything meaningful to you. While doing this physical, in the air, cutting, you can scream out to this person that: ‘you are finished, you are done, you are mad, you are cutting them from you’. It is very healing.

You do not have to sever every cord with every person, some are built on love – like your child or parent. Do this exercise as often as you feel necessary. I did it several times. The shaman said, some can be sticky and it may take a few times to release them completely. Every once in a while, do it again. I did it every day, then once a week, etc. at first. You’ll know what to do intuitively. I rarely feel the need for cord cutting now.

I started to notice that when I felt drained after talking to someone … I had to disconnect. After a while, it becomes obvious who drains you.Love bracelet as a daily reminder we are LOVED

 

Writing

You can write a letter to this person and tell them that you are done, disconnected and finished with the emotional attachment they formed on you. You can then burn it for finality.

 

NOW FOR THE HEALING …

 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping

I offer this affirmation for those who have been traumatized:

Even though terrible things may have happened to me, and my impulse may be to suppress undesirable thoughts, emotions, or bodily sensations, I am loveable and acceptable just as I am. Even though I may feel devalued by traumatic occurrences, I know at my core that I am whole and good, and I now choose to lovingly align myself with that truth.

 

Protect Yourself

Each day or as often as you feel the need, visualize a shield around you. I visualize a golden light. Say, “The golden light surrounds and protects me. No harm can come through my light, only goodness.”

 

Write the Story You Want to Hear

Now, focus on you. Write down how you want your life to be. Write things that only state the positive – use NO negative words/thoughts. For example: Say- ‘Only loving people are in my life’. Don’t say- ‘No mean men in my life’. Say- ‘I know what I want in my life’. Don’t say- ‘I am a lost soul’.

The reason I tell you this is because: the story you tell about you, becomes you. Tell the story you want to have in your life (even if it sounds crazy or outrageous now). Say things like- I have lots of friends who love and respect me. There are nice people everywhere. People do nice things for me every day and I accept them with gratitude. The men or women I meet love and respect me. I am confident in everything I do. I have courage. I am open to receive loving relationships.love wave

 

Be Inspired

Read or listen to the teachings of The Secret (Rhonda Byrnes) (and any of the authors featured) as well as Esther & Jerry Hicks writings on the teachings of Abraham-Hicks and the Law of Attraction. Very cool info.

 

Visualize the New You

Make a vision board – it is a poster collage filled with things you want to see in your life. If you are a visual person, this is a great reminder of what you want out of life. It is fun to do. I add stuff all the time. You can make a paper one with pictures clipped from magazines. The website Pinterest.com is a great place to do this online. Or you can copy pictures and paste them on a document you keep on your computer. The more you look at the vision board, the better. I have a couple. It is a fun reminder of what you want in life. And – when you look at it months later and see that some of the things have come to fruition… well…. life can be fabulous.

 

Love to you,
xoxox
Karen

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How to Attract the Things you Want

What do you want in your life? 

“Use whatever excuse you can to vibrate in harmony with those things you’ve been saying you want.

And when you do, those things that are a vibrational equivalent flow into your experience in abundance.

Not because you deserve it, not because you’ve earned it, but because it’s the natural consequence of the Law of Attraction.

That which is like unto itself is drawn.”

an awesome quote by Esther and Abraham Hicks

Like Attracts LikeOnce you understand that we are all really just vibrating energy and that like attracts like, life gets easier.

Look at an atom, it is a measurement of its vibration thus we are all made of atoms vibrating. Our aura is another energy field that is located in, through and around us. Everything has a vibration.

What you are emanating in a vibration comes to you. Our thoughts are vibrations.

Did you ever notice something, like a new word or a particular kind of car and then hear and see that word or notice that kind of car everywhere over the next few days afterwards? That happened through the law of attraction. You were thinking about it and more came to you that is similar.

In this quote above, she is saying to really act as though it has already happened, already received. This act of using your imagination brings your vibration to match what it is you want.

Another way to talk about vibration and how to raise it to the highest level which is love energy is by using some common phrases in everyday life. “That person is high on life” or “That person is walking on cloud nine” Both of these images bring to mind a cartoon character that is floating around with a blissful smile on their face. These people are both happy because of a love in their lives. Love is a high vibrating energy. To attract love, you have to be loving in all that you do.

Wishing on a Shooting Star and the Law of Attraction

When you wish upon a shooting star

I saw two stars shoot across the sky last night.

It is always fun to see rare heavenly happenings in the night sky. (Yes, I made a few wishes.) I always enjoy the beauty of the Earth around us. Seeing beautiful clouds, rainbows, trees, flowers, sunsets … you name it, I like to admire it in nature. (Well, there are some bugs we can do without).

Then, I started thinking about the occurrence… 

Was it belief in the law of attraction that I saw them?

Was it totally random?

Was it premonition?

You decide. Here’s what happened.

I sat outside visiting with my girlfriend. It is always nice to relax and talk. We were outside most of the evening – long enough to see the stars slowly come into full view. We watched as one by one, the stars became brighter and brighter.

As I sat there staring at the stars, I thought to myself, “I wonder if I will see any shooting stars tonight, since the Earth is traveling through the last of the Perseid meteors area?” Moments after this thought, I saw two shoot across the night sky.

I could not believe it.

I got out of my chair and I laid on her deck. I watched for another 20 minutes hoping to see another pass by, but I only saw the occasional airplane.

So, was that random, law of attraction or premonition? Something to think about, eh?

(My answer – Ask. Believe. Receive. Straight from the law of attraction.)

Either way, the world is awesome if you just look up to appreciate it.

Here is Abraham and Esther Hicks on the subject.

if you want more… I strongly recommend:

The Secret MOVIE on the Law Of Attraction

(Which coincidentally and in complete synchronicity I handed my friend a copy of this movie last night. More validation that this link on the whole movie popped up during my search for Abraham Hicks on purpose.)

So, Tell Me, Is Life Like Schrodinger’s Cat in a Sealed Box?

To have complete and utter faith that when you open the box (symbolic of “waking up to a new day of your life”) that your ultimate dream life, your ultimate desire, is a reality.

That is manifestation. That is, in my view, applying quantum physics to life.

To have the confidence and the conviction that your dream is so real, it becomes true.

What if it happened the very next day?

Imagine the implications.

If we create our own world by our thoughts … what would you choose? Who would you be? Where would you live? What do you really want to do with your life? What world do you want to live in tomorrow?

So, how does this compare to Schrödinger’s cat? Glad you asked.

The basic precept for Quantum physics is this: what you expect to observe, happens.

It is in line with the teachings of The Secret and The Law of Attraction—what you think about comes about.

We have a choice each day to make decisions to choose to do this or choose to do that. If we choose to think positively about what we want to come true, it does.

What if we chose something really big?

Why not?

The Law of Attraction tells us that we should act as though or think as though what we really want is already here. Really already here … like right now.

The famous example commonly used to explain Quantum theory is Schrödinger’s cat. Erwin Schrödinger devised a thought experiment about a cat. It is basically a coin toss on the cat’s survival. The cat is placed in a sealed box. Inside the box is radioactive material, a bottle of poison and a Geiger counter to detect radioactivity. If one single atom decays, the poison is released which kills the cat. There is a 50-50 chance for the cat to die from the poison or to stay alive. The cat’s life is dependent upon the cat being observed by a conscious being. It becomes their decision. The particles involved are in a state of indecision until they are observed (per what is known, amongst Quantum physics enthusiasts, as the Copenhagen Interpretation).

(Please note: no harm was done to a cat—this is a theoretical example.)

My own cat, Catty.

Does this mean that when we wake up (keeping our eyes shut), if we believe with all our heart that our dream came true … will it be there when we open our eyes? It is no different than opening that box to check on the cat, so it should be.

I would think there would have to be absolutely no doubt in our minds for it to work—we need complete faith that we can manifest. Ultimately, controlling the very particles of the thing we have thus far only dreamed of having.

I love when synchronistic things happen for me. In the week I worked on this blog post, I received an email from The Secret Daily Teachings. Perfect timing, I thought.

“Most people can manifest the small things quickly. This is because they do not have any resistance around the small things, and because they don’t think thoughts that contradict them. When it comes to the bigger things, however, people often emit thoughts of doubt or worry that contradict those bigger things. This is the only difference in terms of the time it takes for something to manifest.” ~ Rhonda Byrne

How will you wake up tomorrow?

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Interested? Here is part one of a Lecture Series on Quantum Physics by Prof. V. Balakrishnan, Department of Physics. It is an introduction to Quantum Physics including Heisenberg”s uncertainty principle.

Another good article with more references to Schrödinger’s cat.

On Fear and Love…

In the middle of writing (well, trying to finish writing one of several already-started blogs), I thought I would peruse some of my friend’s blogs. Much to my happy surprise, I found a beautifully written blog on love and fear. I had to share it with you.live in the frequency of love

Read the whole post from Alethea’s blog, Not Tomatoes.

Here is the excerpt from it that I have re-read several times—loving it…

“Through fear we impose a complexity to love that does not exist when love is in its pure, unconditional form. Although love is the highest, purest frequency of energy that exists, it often takes great courage to live in it fully. We, as humans, have complicated our world with fear and all its restraints and conditions. Breaking away from them can make us feel vulnerable, when, in reality, it opens up our inner strengths. It frees our trapped voices. It leads us to our pure, divine, essence.

When we embrace the truth that love is our truth; that love is our divine right to give and receive in pure form, we open ourselves to all of its gifts. Through the family I have created I have learned (and am still learning) this lesson. Love ripples back. It attracts to equal frequency. Pure, unconditional love, frees the soul’s truth. When we get there, we realize there are no constraints. We realize that there is no rejection or pain. We realize that it does not matter that our love cannot always be “returned” to match our frequency, not because we are unlovable, but because a fear exists that may not be our own.

Love, in reality, opens doors, it breaks barriers. When we live in the frequency of love, we free not only ourselves, but raise the collective energy of the world, helping to release the sticky web of fear.”

Thank you Alethea, I absolutely L-O-V-E your poetic words!

The Wavelength of LOVE

In talking with a good friend of mine the other day, I made a realization.

We vibrate at the level of what we attract. Truly. As I mentioned in my recent post, we thusly repel what is not vibrating at our level.

Positive things attract more positive things—that is the basis of the Law of Attraction. (Thank you Esther, Jerry and Abraham Hicks.)

Like attracts Like.

Fear attracts Fear.

These talks made me recall the image of the wavelength of love I had been shown by a healing angel. I visited with these angels while in the light (during a past life regression).

While experiencing a healing, I asked the healing angels what type of energy they use for healing. They said, “Love,” and they showed me what that wavelength of vibrating energy looked like. It is smooth and steady. The healing session feels like very intense Reiki being poured on me.

I drew it for you to see…

love wave

And Fear… it is a short, discombobulated, mess of a wavelength. No wonder it feels so wrong.

What wavelength do you resonate with today?

Aversion to Negativity in an Awakening

I noticed something. Ever since I started my journey into metaphysics, I have had an aversion to negativity.

Is it because I made a conscious effort to focus only on the positive, I have only wanted to bring positive into my life?

Or… Is it something more?

Ever since I have literally and figuratively seen the Light, I have not wanted to watch fear-based media. I stopped watching the news for one. I do not watch the zombie shows or any other fear-based movies.

I feel better … happier.

The rocks do not stop the endless flow of water.

Yes, I sort of know what goes on in the world (I read the headlines), but I know that the world is not crumbling quite as much as the news would lead us to think. I rarely see bad things happen.

If I thought the world was like the news all day every day, I would be a recluse and never leave the house.

I actually often think that the sole purpose of the news broadcast is to help others understand what to do in times of dire straits. I know that I have lived each lifetime to learn lessons I chose to learn before incarnating here. Maybe how the fireman saved the little girl from a burning building or how so many people band together to help someone who is lost can help someone learn how to help unconditionally.

The Law of Attraction states that what you put into your life comes into your life. The Secret states that what we focus our attention on is what we have in our lives. What do you want in your life?

Fear or Love?

So many positive things happen in the world each day. Choose to focus on that.

Try it for a week. See if you notice a difference.

Dream Day in Paris

I read an article the other day that said everyone should write their own horoscope. I thought, what a nice way to do a little law of attraction work. Some horoscopes are written for a year, month, week or day. This gave me the idea to write about my perfect dream day. I challenge you to write (or even daydream about) your dream day.

(Just letting you know that Sponge Bob’s song “The Best Day Ever” just popped in my mind. I think I listened to that CD one time too many when my kids were younger.)

Today, I am working on the social media aspect for my book: Life is Just Another Class – One Soul’s Journey Through Past Life Regression. (Every author should have a platform across the internet and beyond.) Are you interested in finding out more about my book? You can be one of the first to read Chapter 9 – the story of my lifetime as Howard Duish from the 1600’s. Plus, I include excerpts from seven additional chapters so you can learn how Howard made an impact in my current lifetime. I am writing this book as a tool to help you feel comfortable with remembering your own past lives. Sign up for chapter 9.

My Dream Day:

I wake up just in time to see the sunrise. As I look out the window over Paris, I breathe in the fresh air and smile. I start my day listening to a Deepak Chopra meditation. It is so nice to get in touch with your inner self. I pick up my phone and read my daily random affirmation as I take a walk down Rue Bonaparte to the local patisserie. You can smell the patisserie a block away – they have the best croissants. Yum. Their pastries are always so good. I walk back to my rental and write for a few hours. Then I check and update my social media, read an article on the quantum physics of the Maharishi effect and go over the speech I will be giving later.

Checking the time, I gather my painting supplies and walk out the door. The Louvre is having a special oil painting class today. The focus is on Mary Cassatt’s work and I am really looking forward to it. As I walk by the French Academy of Painting, I make a mental note to see what classes they offer. I arrive at the Louvre just in time. Painting class is fabulous, the smell of oil paint and thinner adds to the ambiance. I am sorry the class is only an hour.

It is 1pm now, just in time for lunch. I stop by one of the street venders and pick up a ham and cheese on baguette sandwich. I eat as I make my way across the bridge over the Seine River. Just as I get to the other side, I hear a concert echoing from a performance nearby. I recognize the sound of the harpsichord among the instruments. My favorite! I stand awhile, taking in the sound of the music. What a nice treat.

IOrange Sunset - Perfect end to a day get back home and check social media again while waiting for my children to Skype me online. I chat with my kids for a while. It is always nice to hear about their day, too bad they could not come. I get ready for tonight’s speech. Tonight I am talking about my book, Life is Just Another Class, taking questions and reading a short experiential meditation to a crowd of about 500. At the end, I announce the opening date for the movie (based on my book) and I am excited to tell the Parisians of the donation I will be making to their local children’s science center. I sign many books and speak to as many guests as possible. I just want everyone to feel comfortable experiencing their own past lives.

I take a short taxi ride back to the rental and relax. As I crawl into bed that evening I say, “What a fabulous day.”

Do You Die in Every Lifetime?

My friend, Laura, asked me this question when I first started writing my book. She had read a few of the chapters and one of the death scenes struck a chord with her. Surprised by the question, I told her; “Yes, I die in each lifetime.” She was reading one of my more difficult lives as Isabella. I am editing this chapter today. Her story is Chapter 10 “Isabella Wright” from my book Life is Just another Class – One Soul’s Journey through Past Life Regression. Isabella was a slave in the late 1600’s. Isabella died a very traumatic death, so painful; it took four years until I remembered anything beyond her death scene.

I cannot come back – reincarnate – if I do not die. It is part of the circle of life on Earth. You live and then you die. Everything dies. Some insects only live for a day. Flowers bloom, die and are reborn through the seeds they leave behind. Even rocks die (in a sense) when they are turned into dust and mud. Nevertheless, even they are reborn as pressure and heat combine to push down on the mud to form it into a new rock thousands of years later.

I do not know why so many people are afraid of death. Maybe we are conditioned into thinking that death is a bad thing. From the human perspective, it is. It is hard to see someone die. It is hard missing them when they are gone. It can be very hard. I had a friend die this week that I loved, respected and admired. She fought a battle with brain cancer and lost.

Even re-experiencing death first-hand through past life regression, it still is not easy when someone dies. It never seems fair from our human perspective.

But I know she is in a better place. I know when she died she probably felt relieved to be free of her cancer. I know she probably hung around to check on the children she left behind. I know she will probably remember there is no time and know that, in moments, her children will be grown and they will join her in Heaven one day. I know she most likely saw her guardian angel and other angels waiting to help her as she left her body behind. I know if she has not already, she will see a beautiful, growing light that she will feel compelled to enter. I know that many loved ones who have passed before her will be waiting in the light to welcome her back into Heaven. I know they will shower her with love as she enters the light. I know that she can come back to check on her loved ones when they think of her.

She may even be standing in spirit behind me now. It certainly feels this way. (I had goose bumps on the back of neck when I wrote these sentences.)

I know all this because I re-experienced all of the above when I remembered many of my past lives. I saw all of this from a spirit point of view.

Our parents warned us from a very young age to be careful with our lives. They told us not to do this or not to do that or else we may die. There is a long list of written and unwritten rules barring us from our supposed demise.

But we really do not die, we are eternal spirits. We are here to learn life lessons to help us grow spiritually. If you listen to Esther Hicks (www.abraham-hicks.com) you will have inevitably heard her say that we are always “alive and alive” and that we are never truly dead.

I have re-experienced many of my past life deaths. I have died many different ways including being drowned, shot, burned and hung. Yet, I am still here.

It still does not make it easy when a friend dies. See you on the other side Grace. Love you.

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METAPHYSICAL MOTHERING: Law of Attraction

What can you do the next time your children fight? Use the law of attraction teaching: Life is what you focus upon.

Maybe your kids are calling each other names? Ok. It is normal, once in awhile, for siblings to verbally fight, but it is annoying. You want your kids to get along, love and support one another every day.

Here is an easy solution that you will see surprising results instantly:

Have each child list 5 to 10 reasons why they love each other. If you are really frustrated with them, you could have them list more. I tack on 5 more for each groan at the task – they stop and start writing.

My kids have listed things such as: She has nice hair, I like how she draws, he shows me how to play video games, and he is nice to my friends.

I am telling you it works like magic. I first started toying with this idea of “punishment” on a two hour drive. Much to my dismay their electronics had run out of power only 20 minutes into the ride. Then, bickering and name-calling began – they were fighting over the last electronic that only had a little bit of power left. It made for a very long ride. So, I tried it. They had to take turns saying something nice about each other. By the time I arrived at our destination, they were laughing and getting along so well, it was scary. It was as though I had given them a magic potion of happiness and love. They got along the rest of the day and the whole ride home. I don’t think I would have believed it had I not seen it for myself.

So, they next time you see any two (or more) children bickering or calling names, don’t hesitate to have them start saying nice things about one another. It is more of a challenge when they have to write them down and then read them out loud to the other, but it is not necessary.

I’d love to see this as a punishment for bully’s at school. What a difference it makes to focus on what you like about a person. This way of thinking can help anyone who can’t seem to find something nice about a person. Maybe they have nice hair? Focus on that.

The law of attraction says that what we focus upon, we experience. What do you want in your life?

Sometimes I Think I’m Psychic

Did you ever have a psychic experience in your life? Sometimes I think I am psychic and sometimes I don’t. It’s like it comes and goes… or is it really that I am not “listening” to my intuition. Hmmm.

Once, when I was probably only 8 or 10 years old, I had a psychic experience. I think the right term for it is a premonition. I was being watched by my grandparents while my mother was in the hospital giving birth to one of my younger siblings. We had just been picked up from school. It was a sunny afternoon. I remember being in the living room sitting on their carpet, probably doing homework (although, more likely, we were playing checkers).

Then I remember looking at their old corded phone and saying to my Grandmother: “Have you ever just picked up the phone and someone was on the other line… when the phone did not ring?” So, I picked up the receiver (which, I feel the need to clarify this – a phone in the 1970’s  automatically had a dial tone once it was picked up off of the base) and my Dad was on the other line, “Hello. Hello.” The phone never rang and someone WAS there. Wait. Didn’t I just say that!? It really threw me for a loop. Flabbergasted, I handed the phone to my Grandmother. Did that really just happen? I said it and then it happened.

With the new phones now, I never had the automatic pick up with a person there again. Well, unless you count the few times when the phone is ringing and I knew who it was before I saw the caller id. (Or that one time I was thinking of an old friend and then a minute later she called.) Now, I sometimes try to guess who is calling before I check. Just for fun.

I think about this pre-knowing/premonition occurrence the most when I am driving along, minding my own business and suddenly, I feel as though I need to slow down or to be more cautious. Immediately a thought that there may be a deer on the road or a cop car watching for speeding motorists is ahead. Then, there usually is… a deer or a cop… whichever I was just thinking about. I have an 80 percent probability of being right. I have woken up from nap during a long drive just to say to my husband, “slow down” only to see a cop on the side of the road not long afterwards. It is pretty convenient, I have to say.

Have you ever had a psychic experience? I’ll bet you have. We all are born with psychic abilities. Trust your intuition, you will surprise yourself.

Premonition vs. the Law of Attraction

Here’s a quandary. So, if you have premonition (a pre-knowing) of something, and then it happens – are you getting the information beforehand or are you using the law of attraction with the total lack of doubt so fully that it does, in fact, happen? I often wonder this. How do you know? How can you tell? Am I psychic or am I believing so much in the “something that just popped into my head” that I cause it to happen?

Can we ever find this out? I don’t really know. I don’t know if I will really get a good parking space or not, but I always seem to get one since I have been studying and practicing the law of attraction. I don’t necessarily have any positive premonition of a good parking spot. But there one is, waiting for me. If I had to put a percentage on this, it would be about 98 percent now. I expect it to happen.

It is like the old math problem: If A = B and B = C, then A has to = C. Let A be a premonition and B is use of the law of attraction. C will happen. It doesn’t really matter how it happens, it just does. The information is coming sometimes because I think about it on purpose and sometimes because the information just pops into my head.

And sometimes, you still have to do the math (the work) to get the answer (what you want). Either way… it boils down to “thoughts become things.”

What are your thoughts today?

Katy Perry, Litterbugs and the Law of Attraction

I have listened to and learned a lot about “the Secret” – or more commonly: the Law of Attraction. It does work. If you have listened to any of these teachings you will know what I mean when I say: I do get great parking spaces, I get a lot of green lights and I have received unexpected checks.  

I have to say that life IS what you make of it.

I have two favorite examples of how the law of attraction has worked for me. I like to use them when I mention the law of attraction or the secret and I get a blank stare. They are fun examples.

Last summer, while reading the paper, there was an article that talked about Pennsylvania’s new litter control program. Pennsylvania sells license plates to help support their “Don’t be a Litterbug” campaign. As soon as I read it, I thought; “They are using ‘litter’ in their campaign and that will only bring more litter under the law of attraction.” If they want to get rid of litter, they need to say something like: “Keep Pennsylvania Clean” or “Neat in PA” – where they are putting the focus on the clean and neat of things. I put the paper down. Reminded myself that this was another example of why I don’t like to read the paper. I would much rather read and hear good, positive news only.

The law of attraction is similar to the law of gravity. If you think it, it will happen. (This is popularly stated as: thoughts become things.) Just as if you drop an apple and it falls due to the law of gravity. It’s the same. It’s a law. (Search Abraham Hicks for more information.)

But, that is not all. The very next day, I noticed a lot more trash blowing and billowing around the sides of the highways and roads as I drove my daughter to acting class. I didn’t remember seeing so much before. More trash the next day. It was on the sides of every road I drove. Okay, this is annoying, people can’t be this disrespectful. I couldn’t help but to notice all the litter.

It took me a few weeks of thinking and focusing on this, then… (A little slow, I know.) I decided to make a concerted effort to only focus on the beautiful trees, grass and flowers along the side of the road. I felt that I was using the law of attraction to attract lots of litter on the road to me, so I had to do something about it. (Thoughts become things… thoughts become things…) The next day, when I drove my daughter to acting class, I barely noticed any litter. Plus, there was a crew of people cleaning up the road in the one section that was the worst. It was like it had disappeared in one day’s time. ONE DAY’S TIME. All I did was decide to put my attention on something positive. I drove to work later and all I could say was, “Shut UP! This really works.” I think I only saw one piece of litter floating around during that hour drive. It was surreal. It was as though I called PennDOT and ordered a massive cleanup of the highways and roads and they listened.

My other favorite example has to do with my daughter. First I have to give you her basic list of very strong loves from her short life so far. She is now 10 and a very girly girl. Since she was little, she always loved the color pink. Her favorite game was Candyland – especially Princess Lolly. (I kept a set of the playing cards to use on her scrapbook pages – she loved it that much.) Her favorite animal is a cat – I don’t even think she has a second favorite animal (we now have two). One of her favorite things to do is dress up in a variety of costumes and dresses. Her absolute favorite thing to do is to draw, which she uses when she draws backdrops and scenery to go with her outfit that day (or that hour). One of her requests is to have a variety of colorful wigs to go with her costumes. And I have to include her love of YouTube. Her first typed word was on YouTube. I’ll bet you can guess it: Kitty. Oh, and she loves, loves, loves to sing and act. She is soooo not afraid to be on a stage.

Now that you know a bit about her… last summer we had the fortunate chance to attend a Katy Perry concert. Katy is very awesome to put it mildly, but the whole time I am sitting there jamming to her music; all I could think about was: this is my daughter’s manifestation of the law of attraction. It was all of her aforementioned “loves” balled up in one nice neat package over the course of one evening. It was stunning. I could not get over the similarities.

Katy’s concert tour (2011) was a multi-media blast of fun. Katy changed her dresses and costumes numerable times and she wore several different wigs to match. I still don’t know how she changed so many times during her Hot and Cold song. The scenery on the stage was a huge Candyland game board with LOTS of pink clouds. Katy had a YouTube-like video playing on large screens in the back of the stage that coordinated with her songs. A little cat was Katy’s little friend in the video. Then at the end of her concert, a person dressed as “Kitty Purry” came out on stage. It was unreal. The whole time all I could think about was how much this concert was meant for my daughter.

 UPDATE – I spoke to my daughter about this post later that night. She said, “Hey! You forgot that I love cupcakes and Katy found her happiness in a special cupcake shop in the video at the concert. Remember – I even started the Cupcake Club. And, Katy sold pink cotton candy – and my nick name was Cotton Candy Swirl (when we used to play make-believe)! And, Katy’s concert had pink clouds and pink cats in the concert – I love all those things too!”

I just had to add this update.

What is the law of attraction bringing to you?