At this time in her life, she was very insistent upon being called ‘Baby’ instead of her given name. She also said she had no intentions of turning 4 years old and wanted to stay 3 to the point of tears, especially if there was any discussion on either subject. From a parent’s perspective, it was very confusing and as a 3-year-old, she could not explain why.
Following Carol’s advice, I simply asked my daughter what she thought would happen if she turned 4. She went into a very elaborate story (for a 3 year-old) talking about a friend of hers who lived up on a hill. She was laughing so hard remembering and retelling this, it was uncanny.
Then she got very serious and a little nervous. She spoke about walking in the woods and falling on a slippery rock. As she spoke, she started touching her head (where she had two small round strawberry birthmarks for the first few months of her life) and said she was hit with a ‘mean rock’ on her head. She was very emotional about the whole thing.
What was interesting and enlightening, is that a few days later, she was fine with turning 4 years old and decided she was fine not being called ‘Baby’ anymore. I could not believe it. She had been very adamant about not growing up and being called ‘Baby’ for as long as she was 3. It was quite a noticeable change in her. I truly believe she remembered a past life or two and they definitely made a change in her life, albeit a small one, but meaningful. It still amazes me when I think of this day. We were just standing there in the kitchen chatting, like it was a normal everyday conversation… then healing happens.
When she talked about a mean rock hitting her in the head, I immediately thought she was talking about being shot. It was the motion and the way she described it that made me think this way. The two strawberry birthmarks on the top of her head (that she had for a few months) looked like small bullet holes. Interestingly, she has a birthmark on the back of her head that almost looks like an exit wound from a bullet. It is still there though, now hidden by her hair.