What can you do the next time your children fight? Use the law of attraction teaching: Life is what you focus upon.
Maybe your kids are calling each other names? Ok. It is normal, once in awhile, for siblings to verbally fight, but it is annoying. You want your kids to get along, love and support one another every day.
Here is an easy solution that you will see surprising results instantly:
Have each child list 5 to 10 reasons why they love each other. If you are really frustrated with them, you could have them list more. I tack on 5 more for each groan at the task – they stop and start writing.
My kids have listed things such as: She has nice hair, I like how she draws, he shows me how to play video games, and he is nice to my friends.
I am telling you it works like magic. I first started toying with this idea of “punishment” on a two hour drive. Much to my dismay their electronics had run out of power only 20 minutes into the ride. Then, bickering and name-calling began – they were fighting over the last electronic that only had a little bit of power left. It made for a very long ride. So, I tried it. They had to take turns saying something nice about each other. By the time I arrived at our destination, they were laughing and getting along so well, it was scary. It was as though I had given them a magic potion of happiness and love. They got along the rest of the day and the whole ride home. I don’t think I would have believed it had I not seen it for myself.
So, they next time you see any two (or more) children bickering or calling names, don’t hesitate to have them start saying nice things about one another. It is more of a challenge when they have to write them down and then read them out loud to the other, but it is not necessary.
I’d love to see this as a punishment for bully’s at school. What a difference it makes to focus on what you like about a person. This way of thinking can help anyone who can’t seem to find something nice about a person. Maybe they have nice hair? Focus on that.
The law of attraction says that what we focus upon, we experience. What do you want in your life?
Yes, it works. Years ago when our children were in an organized recreational basketball league, we had to contend with a bully on another team. I asked our team to say “We like you “Sam” whenever we played them. It worked. “Sam” reacted with disbelief, through his game off–and our kids didn’t spend the whole game grumbling and finding ways to “get even.” Thanks for your post on this subject–Barb